How to Feel Comfortable in Front of the Camera (Even If You Hate Being Seen)

Let’s get this out of the way first: If you’ve ever said, “I’m not photogenic”—you’re not alone. I hear it all the time.

Most people are self-critical. We’ve spent years comparing ourselves to filtered selfies, model shoots, and wedding photos taken under perfect conditions. It’s no wonder we get anxious when it’s our turn in front of the camera.

But here’s the truth:

You don’t need to be a model to look amazing in your photos. You just need the right environment—and the right photographer—to bring out your best.

Whether you’re booking portraits, headshots, lifestyle photos, or a boudoir session, here’s how to take the pressure off and actually feel good in front of the lens.

Why So Many of Us Feel Weird in Photos

It’s not just you.

Most people feel a little (or a lot) awkward in front of the camera. We’re used to mirrors and selfies—things we can control. But being professionally photographed can feel unfamiliar, especially if you don’t think of yourself as “photogenic.”

But here’s what matters:

Looking good in photos isn’t about being naturally confident—it’s about working with someone who knows how to guide you, pose you, and use light to highlight what makes you look your best.

That’s what a professional photographer brings to the table. It’s not your job to know your angles—I’ve got that covered.

Before Your Shoot: How to Set Yourself Up for Success

You don’t need to rehearse or fake confidence. These simple steps will help you show up feeling a little more relaxed and a lot more prepared.

Choose the Right Photographer

This is everything. The person behind the camera matters just as much as the camera itself. Find someone whose style you love and who helps you feel at ease. You should feel like you can ask questions, express concerns, and trust their expertise.

Plan Your Session Together

Whether you’re prepping for headshots, portraits, or something more personal like boudoir, a little planning goes a long way. Talk through the vibe of the shoot, possible locations, outfit ideas, and what kind of images you want to walk away with. Knowing the plan = less pressure on the day of.

Wear Something That Makes You Feel Like Yourself

Your outfit can change how you carry yourself—so choose something that fits well and feels right for the occasion.

• For headshots, go with clean, professional lines.
• For lifestyle sessions, think about natural movement and texture.
• For boudoir, comfort and confidence are key—whether that’s lingerie, a bodysuit, or your favorite oversized shirt.

What matters most is that you feel good in it.

Skip the Self-Critiquing in the Mirror

Trying to “practice” your smile or posing in front of your phone usually just leads to overthinking. You don’t have to know how to pose. Your photographer knows how to pose you. You just have to show up and trust the process.

Give Yourself a Minute to Breathe

Feeling nervous? Totally normal. Do something calming before your shoot—listen to music, stretch, or take a short walk. You don’t need to feel amazing. You just need to give yourself permission to show up as you are.

During the Shoot: Let Go of the Pressure

You’re not performing. You’re not being judged. You’re being guided.

You’ll get direction. A good photographer isn’t just clicking the shutter. They’re watching for angles, giving gentle prompts, making sure you’re positioned in the most flattering way possible. You don’t need to know what to do—I’ll help you every step of the way.

You’ll ease in slowly. No one starts a session feeling like a supermodel. It takes a few minutes to warm up—that’s expected. We’ll start with natural, low-pressure shots and build from there.

You’re allowed to feel unsure. You don’t need to act like someone you’re not. In fact, your best photos often come in the moments where you let your guard down—whether it’s a laugh, a glance, or a quiet moment of stillness.

This is a collaboration. If something feels off, let me know. Want to take a break? Need to adjust an outfit? Totally fine. We’ll work together to make sure you feel good and the images reflect your energy, personality, and goals.

Confidence Doesn’t Look One Way

People often think confidence means bold poses and perfect smiles. But real confidence looks different on everyone. It might be a soft expression. A strong stance. A moment of stillness.

What makes a photo powerful isn’t how much you “perform”—it’s how present you are in the moment.

The best photos don’t come from perfect people. They come from people who are willing to show up—even if they’re a little nervous.

You’ve Got This

You don’t need to be photogenic. You don’t need to know how to pose. You just need someone who knows how to make you look and feel your best.

That’s what I do. And I’d love to do it for you.

If you’re ready to feel good in front of the camera—for the first time or the hundredth—let’s talk. I’m here to answer questions, plan your session, and help you get photos you’ll actually love.